March 25, 2025
When you’ve established that the way things are working right now is not how you want to continue, and you’ve set your sights on a big vision, you might be one of the people who thinks that from now on, your vision will inspire you every day. You’ll wake up filled with motivation, and the days of struggle are over!
I am so sorry to disappoint you.
Growing up doesn’t feel nice.
When you grow your muscles, you have to go through growing pains. You damage your muscles and put them under stress, forcing them to grow.
When you finally get clarity on the life and self you want to create, it's not the end but just the beginning. And if you think you’ve left the struggle behind, you’ve set the wrong expectations for what's to come.
As I’ve been developing myself and my business, I’ve had to deal with the following, and many more things:
- Judgment from friends
- Judgment from family
- Judgment from my partners
- Doubting if I could do it
- Losing big sums of money
- Firing people I really liked
- Facing hard conversations with clients, friends, and others in my life
- Taking on more and more responsibility
- Realizing I had spent six months developing the wrong strategy
- Getting scammed
- Getting scammed again
- Getting scammed again
- More judgment from friends
- Long nights finishing a project I had promised
- Writing for three hours through writer’s block
- Hitting my beliefs about myself
- Choosing to continue anyway
- Doubting if I could do it
- Doing things I didn’t feel confident in, over and over again
These things are not unlucky incidents, but likely occurrences because our human nature is built on survival, not thriving.
You won’t just magically enjoy stepping into unknown territory. Your system will most likely respond with fear. People won’t automatically understand and support you; they will be threatened by you showing that their excuses aren’t real, that you can do it, and that you take the risks they told themselves all their lives they wouldn’t take.
And no, most people will not be self-aware to the level that they don’t put their opinions and judgments on you.
And no, you won’t get to the point where nothing phases you anymore.
But you always have a say in who you’re going to be in the matter.
And when you get that, you can say, “Thank you for your opinion, thank you for your judgment, thank you, brain, for fear. I will do it anyway.”
And that builds an extraordinary life.