I don’t feel loving right now, so it is inauthentic to act loving, right?

Most people let their feelings leek into their being, not aware that they create the feeling in the first place.

Depending on how I felt, I made my decisions.

But if it were so, my feelings would reflect perfectly what is happening out there. If the sun is shining, I am happy; if I am with great people, I feel great; if I have security around me, I feel safe.

All of us have the ability to be in a perfectly safe environment and yet feel threatened, be in great company, and also feel like sh*t

My feelings are a reflection of what’s going on in my thinking, the story, the narrative, and the explanation I have in my head. My feelings are telling me about what I am busy with internally. That’s it.

To experience it as not a theory but as a fact: my mood is directly related to what’s going on in my head.

I ask the group to think about the worst experience of their lives. The feelings are on the so-called negative side of the spectrum. Angry, sad, tense, serious, and so forth.

The mood changes.

This is what we do all day long, every day, as long as we are alive. We think our way into delight or misery, suffering or joy.

Now, let’s relate that back to the statement in the beginning.

If I get to live from that understanding, I will conclude that it wouldn’t make sense to listen to my mood all the time.

I would see that my inspiration comes and goes based on what I think at the moment.

I don’t say to become a robot or stop feeling; in fact, I say that you can feel anything - no need to change it - and you are able to act independently of that feeling. So I can write when I am sad, joyful, loving, closed, happy, inspired, and uninspired.

What would be possible in your life if you acted independently of your mood?  If you stopped giving your feelings all the power over your life?