March 31, 2025

Yesterday, I held a networking group in the town where I live.

People came, and many said things like, "Wow, it's great that you started this!" They also said that someone from outside the town had to come to make it happen.

I understood what they meant. The possibility was always there, but no one did anything with it.

What I said in response was this: Often, we are trapped in the conversations we inherit. One of the conversations people in this town inherited is this: "Nothing ever happens here. If you really want to grow, you have to go to the big city."

In this conversation, there isn't room to create something that would make people believe something is happening here.

It took someone from the outside, someone not trapped in that conversation, to see the possibility and open it up.

We think we see the world, but in reality, we only see the conversation we have about the world.

By doing that, we limit ourselves. We create patterns of thinking that stop us from taking action.

I've talked a lot about the limits of reasonableness before. Reasons come from the conversation we live in, not from what's really possible. The reasons people had and believed them kept them from creating a networking group before.

By not having those same reasons, I was able to do the only thing that actually moves things forward: Take action and build a networking group.

Now, we have a group of 23 people, and it's growing.

This might sound obvious, but it might sound simple. And I guarantee you that you live inside of conversations that prevent you from experiencing the extent of freedom, love, and fun you want.

So, what are the conversations you're living in?

Are they allowing you to live the life you want to live?

What's the evidence for the assumptions you have about what is and isn't possible?